Thursday, May 28, 2009

New Beginnings

Just as each day is new to us, so are the times of our life. Our basic needs don't really change, but the way we approach attaining those things changes. Maturity brings with it a certain level of understanding -especially if we have paid any attention to the roadsigns along the way.

The wants and desires of yesterday may become completely disassociated from what is really important to us today. My heartfelt plea to my father at the age of nine and ten was buy me a horse. Today that would be a lovely request granted, but as an adult I know the care and work that is involved with that gift, and having that wish granted is no longer anywhere near my list of priorities.

The one thing that doesn't seem to change is the need for personal relationships , whether trying to find a really close friend, or a relationship that might lead to a long-term commitment and possibly marriage. And the criteria I had as a young girl wanting a young man has changed so much in the past few years that the search has taken on a completely different aspect.

As with anyone who is still trying to find that "certain someone" to fulfill their
life,I'm learning to be more accepting and caring than I might have been in years past. I still have a need to feel I'm the most important person in someone's life, but now realize that to achieve that means giving more of myself.

Friday, April 3, 2009

I Wish You Joy

Joy is the hope that springs from the heart when we have a dream fulfilled or find a place of utter happiness. That's the very essence of what we search for and need in a relationship.

Nothing worthwhile is obtained without effort, and allowing someone into your life is wonderful-especially if both of you share the same level of commitment. Being able to read from the "same page" makes the sharing so much better, and the ability to communicate feelings and concerns is a huge factor.

To those who are traveling this path of uncertainty, I wish you joy- a joy that will happen when you open your heart for love and companionship.

Jane Austen wrote a poem to her husband titled "I Wish You Joy" in 1809.

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Monday, March 23, 2009


Without a doubt, one is the loneliest number in life. As human beings, our utmost desire is to be in companionship with another person, and to love and be loved. That sounds like a simple task to accomplish, when in reality it's probably the most difficult mission we'll ever have. Finding that special someone who can fill our emotional and physical needs is the eternal quest.

Many of us have had that wonderful relationship with the person of our choice ,only to have it taken from us by time or circumstance. And here we go again - "Takin' A Chance On Love". No guarantees, only trusting another person to treat our heart with care, and to risk once again.

We anticipate the journey to a new relationship as a new start at this point in our lives, and accept the challenge this search brings. So is it time to pack your bags
and begin living again with new hope?

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

My Wonderful Opportunies In Music

When I began studying piano as a child eagerly doing something I loved, little did I realize the wonderful opportunities that would come my way as a result of that choice. As a high school student I performed as a piano soloist in the Kansas City Music Hall,and was a member of the Kansas City Philharmonic Chorus.

Since learning to play the pipe organ in college I have been privileged to play on some wonderful instruments in this country including the US Air Force Chapel in Littleton, CO, Spivey Hall in Clayton, GA and Cannon Chapel at Emory University in Atlanta. One season I performed at the Spoleto Festival in Charleston SC, which presents lovely music and arts. I was formerly employed as Assistant Organist at the Cathedral of St. Luke's in Orlando, and performed with the Florida Youth Symphony at First United Methodist Church, also in downtown Orlando.

One of my biggest thrills came on a tour of Europe, where I was allowed to play the organ in the Catholic church in Mondsee, Austria outside of Salzburg, where the wedding scene for the "The Sound of Music" was filmed. It is my desire to share the joy of music with others, as we all have an innate sense of rhythm given to us at birth. And it is such a wonderful sensation to be able to make music of our own, and express our feelings. We can each sing from our soul, and feel the happy spirit that is within us.

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Saturday, March 14, 2009


I was touched by an obituary written in the Orlando Sentinel about a young woman whose young life was ended by cancer. The wonderful part of the story told of the path she chose when the illness began. Rather than allowing the cancer to overtake her outlook, she employed the "Power of One" to enable her to feel some kind of fulfillment in her life. She urged her friends to do deeds of kindness for others, and encouraged focusing on the needs of others rather than self.

As I read these words, it seemed to be such a simple thing to allow myself to be truly concerned about someone outside my own small realm. It isn't really such a stretch to think of someone else before yourself, once you view yourself in an objective manner. What an amazing effect each of us could have on the world around us if we gave a simple word of encouragement someone who's struggling, a kind "hello" to a people we meet, a note to a grieving friend.

It's interesting to realize the most important aspect of our lives lies in relationships- and that seems to be the area where we have the most difficulty. By applying the "Power of One" it means we're letting someone's concerns take precedence over our own, and then we can allow that person to be what they need to be.

I challenge you to apply this life principle to some arena of your life this week, and you can be assured you'll be pleasantly surprised with the results. Just as the stone thrown on a pond causes ripples, your life can cause positive ripples.

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Thursday, March 12, 2009


In a conversation with a dear friend,I learned he was an admirer of the late Winston Churchill, and I recalled one of Churchill's famous quotes; "A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. An optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty". Making the choice as to which view will represent our thinking becomes more important as our life progresses.

The circumstances I have been given to deal with in the past few years have made it increasingly difficult to maintain the positive attitude that had always defined me. When my friend remarked that he felt my attitude to be a positive one, it came as a reminder that we must find something each day to be thankful for.

There is so much in life that is good and worthy of holding onto, yet we're besieged with so much that is unworthy. Discernment must be a part of out search each day to decide what is acceptable to become a part of ourselves as well as those we care about.

It's too simplistic to just say "I'll try to be a better person today". The more effective approach might be to say "I want to remain positive no matter what I'm faced with today, and my attitude will not waver".

Life was meant to be lived to the fullest. which includes lots of "stuff"! And "life is what happens to us while we're making plans!"

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